1. Thomas P. PAYNTER was born in 1836/37. (1) He died before 1888. (1)
According to the research of R. Milton Atkins, this is the same Thomas Paynter who served in the Confederate Army in Company B, 30th NC Infantry.
We've found that record. Thomas is shown as a Warren County farmer who enlisted in Company B, 30th Regiment, North Carolina Troops (the Confederate Army) 16 Jun 1861 at age 24. This Thomas P. Paynter is listed as present or accounted for until discharged on 14 Jan 1862, by reason of "a wound received on the scalp about five years ago" as a civilian.
He re-enlisted in the same company on 16 Jul 1863. Records show him detailed as a shoemaker (17 Sep 1863); absent on detail (Aug 1864); hospitalized at Richmond 24 Feb 1865 with what was described as "nostalgia." This Thomas Paynter was apparently still in the hospital in Richmond when the city fell (3 Apr 1865). He is listed as paroled there about 21 April 1865.
Atkins shows the marriage date as 14 Apr 1857.
Atkins also quotes Luther Paynter of Wise as saying Thomas died and left Frances with several young children. She was apparently without the resources to raise the family and had to send the children to different people to raise. One result was that Adelia was raised by her older sister, Rosa (King).

He was married to Elizabeth Frances ELLINGTON (daughter of John ELLINGTON and Elizabeth (Betsy) RIVERS) on 12 Sep 1857 in Warren County, NC. Elizabeth Frances ELLINGTON (1) was born on 27 Feb 1831 in Warren County, NC.(1) She died on 16 Jun 1915 in Henderson, NC.(1)
Ron Adams offers a wedding date of 14 Apr 1857. Thomas P. PAYNTER and Elizabeth Frances ELLINGTON had the following children:

child+2 i. Susan Elizabeth PAYNTER.
child+3 ii. John Thomas PAYNTER.
child+4 iii. Robert Lee (Buddy) PAYNTER.
child+5 iv. Adelia Jackson PAYNTER.
child+6 v. Lou PAYNTER.
child+7 vi. Emma PAYNTER.
child+8 vii. Rose PAYNTER.